June is considered the kick off to wedding season, so what better time to learn a bit about Jewish wedding bands.
The traditional Jewish wedding ceremony includes the gifting of a simple, unadorned gold band from the groom to his bride, accompanied by the groom’s words: “You are hereby consecrated to me, with this ring, according to the law of Moses and Israel.” Technically, the groom need only give the bride a gift of some small value in order to marry her but tradition has agreed upon a ring. The continuity of the ring represents the hope for an everlasting marriage.
At many modern Jewish weddings, the bride also chooses to give a ring to her husband at some point during the ceremony. While this is not permitted in most Orthodox ceremonies to avoid the impression that there was a trade of goods between the bride and groom rather than a gift, it is permitted in Conservative and Reform ceremonies.
In recent years, many people have been looking past the plain gold band for something more interesting, and wedding bands featuring biblical and spiritual quotes have gained popularity. In these bands, the letters of the quotes wrap around the finger to echo the continuity of the shape of the band itself.
Of course, check with your rabbi to see if you may use such rings under the chuppah! Even if you can’t, these make wonderful gifts for yichud (bride/groom seclusion after the ceremony) and are very popular as anniversary gifts or for renewing wedding vows.
Our handmade Jewish wedding bands come in 14k yellow and white gold in all different designs and finishes. We have some stunning styles featuring diamonds as well. Many couples like to have matching bands, some of our styles come in different widths, different colors of gold and with/without diamonds. If you and your partner can't agree on a style, you can still match without getting the same exact ring.
The most popular quote placed on these bands is אני לדודי ודודי לי from Song of Songs 6:3. It means "I am to my beloved as my beloved is to me." Other quotes include “Harei at mekudeshet li,” which is the first half of the vow traditionally recited in the ceremony (“you are hereby consecrated to me”). Other quotes include Ze dodi v'ze re'ei, “this is my beloved, this is my friend,” Tehiye nafshi keshura benafshech, “my soul will intertwine with your soul,” and many more. What a beautiful and spiritual gift to give the one you love!